I was watching Eat, Love, Pray... again (yes I love that movie. I see something different every time I watch it.) and towards the end Julia Roberts' character goes to her guru and says that she dumped this guy she fell in love with. He said well why did you do that? She said because I have lost my balance. He then says to her, knowing how much to give is the key to being balance. He said "don't give too much God and don't give too much selfish." It got me to thinking about my own relationships that I have had.
In the past I had been attracting men that were "broken" or that I thought I needed to fix or heal. Not on purpose, unconsciously. I remember being in an on again, off again relationship when this guy said to me "why is it that you always look so good and alive when we are not together?" It was then that I realized that when we weren't together, I was doing things for me. Spending extra time on my hair or whatever those things were that were for me. When he and I were together, I spent more time on him then I did myself.
Often time we get caught up in everything and everyone else that we neglect ourselves. Whether it's the eighty hour a week job, the family soccer games, dance recitals or being at every church function during the week, we must remember to nurture ourselves. When you find that your life is out of balance, that is a time to re-evaluate the things that you are juggling in your life. Make a list of everything you are giving your attention to and how much attention you are giving to each. You will find that it is YOU that you are not giving enough attention to. When the mind, body and spirit feels neglected, generally one tends to act out and in some unexpected ways.
I didn't meditate for three days and ended up with a headache for TWO days! One time I was working at this site and we were on some serious deadlines. I felt uneasy and contacted my supervisor that I would be going home as I didn't feel well. The next day, I felt about the same but had on my mind all of the things that I needed to get done. I knew when I got up that morning that I should have stayed in bed but I went on in anyway. I was sick that same day and I was out of work for the week. I had given that job a lot of my attention to the point that I neglected my health.
It doesn't take much to get into balance. I think people make it harder than it really has to be. At some point something has got to give. It's up to you to decide what that is before it is decided for you. I am doing much better at being balanced. I say no to those people and those things that tip my scale way too far to the left or to the right. I rest when I need to and I do those things that are enjoyable to me.
Find your balance and what that means to you.
As always, thank you for reading. Visit my website at www.nu-bodi.com and I will see you tomorrow.
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